Last entry I was talking about how things were crappity-crap-crap. Well, things have yet to get better.
My 19th birthday was on November 10th and it became a point for life to worsen. I asked my mom if Wes (Square Wheel) could come over to be with us for my birthday. She didn't like the idea and made a big deal about it, insulting him and me and really hurt my feelings. I left the house in a rage. On the way to meet Wheel, I sent my mom a text message, "I really hate you right now. You've ruined a very important day because you are a selfish bitch. I'm not coming home." Bad idea. Wes and I spent the day together. My birthday had gotten better, forgetting my mom and just feeling special on my day. He came over for an hour to bake a birthday cake with me, then he left. I went to bed feeling happy for the first time in months. The next day was hell.Near noon, my mom had come into my room, "We need to talk." I said, "Okay. Talk." She flipped her phone open to the text message I had sent her. I was still upset so I didn't feel bad for sending it. She said, "Where in the hell do you get the right to send me these things ?!" I didn't say anything. "WHERE DO YOU GET THE RIGHT ?!" She sung her and my head but I shot my arm up to defend myself. "You ruined my birthday !" I yelled. I got up from my seat and pushed it onto the floor and pushed her away from me. "You think I'm a selfish BITCH ?' she asks. She goes over to where I had the hair straightener, taking it and breaking it in half. "I'M SELFISH?!" She took my ProActive face wash stuff and opened the bottles and dumped them all over the floor. She had bought me those things for my birthday. "You ruined my day ! You hurt my feelings !" I screamed at her, crying my eyes out. She came over to me to hit me again, but I had had enough. I shoved her away and began to punch her body. She was doing the same to me. My aunt had heard the commotion from the living room and came running in screaming and yelling at us to stop. But we couldn't tear ourselves apart from taking our anger out on eachother. My aunt pulled me off of my mom. We were all crying. My brother had come upstairs and was watching from the hallway. My mom began to lecture and say that I was stupid and that why should she keep providing for someone that takes it all for granted. "Why don't you get your ass in school ?!" "My entrance exam is on the 19th, you idiot !" and so on. Finally after an hour of her yelling and crying. She told me to pack up, and get the hell out of the house and never come back. So I packed. Called up Wes and have been staying with him and his mom since. My brother texts me now and then and told me the other day that my mom and aunt are still crying over my leaving. Tough nuggies.
You should have just brought your friend over. After all, it is your birthday and you are legally an adult. As soon as I am no longer a minor, I won't have to listen to a thing my parents say and will take full advantage of that. That was a bit judgmental of your mom, but you shouldn't have reacted in that way :S
Note to myself: Insulting the person who gives you free rent never helps anything even if you feel that way. Sometimes a little self control is necessary.
hope you make up with your mom, don't let trivial things ruin your relationship forever!Never bite the hand that feeds you, unless you're capable of feeding yourself.
Asshole internet responce: Cool story bro.
Intelligent responce: Really dicky of her to go around insulting your friends, you probably shouldn't have called her a "selfish bitch" though.What made it worse is that I really wanted to fix it, but I didn't wanna just say sorry for insulting her and just continue on with her being rude to him all the time. Since she wouldn't listen to me, I lost it and we fought more. I really just can't stand that she feels like she has to not make any effort just because she's the parent and I have to adjust my whole existence just cause she says so.
Who said you had to adjust? You just have to cope with the bitching. And no, I would not be a hypocrit when I say this, because I have to play the peaceful older brother to the younger one that is trying to screw me over endlessly. If I screw him up, though, I get to pay the price. So for now, I simply just deal with it.
As for fixing your problem, I would suggest taking it with an adult approach. Ask that you call a truce for some time, sit down at a table, and discuss what's on your mind. And if you follow that advice, do not, DO NOT, act on emotion. I know that's asking something difficult, but emotion toys with even the greatest thinkers. Emotion is… A painful thing that will interfere with many things. But it is a necessary thing, gather your thoughts first, and always keep in mind, the main goal that you want - Your mother's respect for your friend, and forgiveness.She probably can't stay mad at you forever… After all, she is your mother.Bad times. Things will get better, for sure, just give it some time.
"Who said you had to adjust? You just have to cope with the bitching."
So true. Appearantly you haven't even not gone down to her level when she's began to bitch?Thanks for answering my question. :(
I've written blogs before about my mom not treating me right. She's always been complaining about my dating Wes and such. I've dealt with the bitching all my life. I moved out before because I just couldn't deal with arguing. We've done the "sit down and talk" thing with friends, family, the pastor, counselors and whatever but things never get better. I think it's because we're so set in our ways neither of us will budge and it's just pushed us apart to the extent that we pretty much hate eachother as much as a parent and child can.