Public Speaking, Public Freaking

Posted by Tasm on Oct. 19, 2014, noon

This semester I'm taking a public speaking course, because somebody apparently thinks giving speeches is a critical skill to have in the IT world. Regardless, we had our second meeting on Saturday, and there's one thing I've noticed.

I've gotten over most of my fear to speak in front of people. Over the years I've adopted this idea that no one person is really more or less important than another and that everyone feels some degree of anxiety when giving speeches, and I've mixed it with a general lack of giving a fuck. I'm in my twenties, a recently discharged war vet, and it's really time for me to stop fucking around. This gets me through most things, honestly.

And I've learned to control the signs of my anxiety. I can control the speed of my speech, my fidgeting is almost non-existent, and eye contact is no problem. But the one thing that always happens is the fucking dry mouth. Immediately after beginning my first sentence, someone comes along and pours a bucket of sand in my mouth and it never fails. It's hard to speak clearly when your tongue is sticking to your teeth, so now I have to take a few awkward moments to salivate and moisten my mouth so I can continue. It's terrible. But I suppose like most things, it will dissolve over time. I've only got two more speeches to give this semester, so I'm not very concerned about it.

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My quest to learn Java continues. I'm working on a "game" now and found a sticking point with refining collision detection. Mostly I'm just trying to detect collisions before they happen and move objects to the point just outside of contact. I remember this being much easier in GameMaker. Coincidentally, I've named a few of the methods I've written to detect collisions after similar functions in GML. I figure it will help me remember what they do better. Is it sad that I still remember a lot about GML?

In any event, tell me about your experiences in public speaking, game programming, or both.

Comments

LAR Games 10 years, 1 month ago

I've always just told myself that people are sitting in their chairs worrying about their turn too much to care about what I'm saying.

Tasm 10 years, 1 month ago

@LAR Games: That's very true, which is why I usually opt to go first. Once you've gotten it over with, you're free to watch everyone else suffer.

LAR Games 10 years, 1 month ago

That's exactly what I tend to do. haha

flashback 10 years, 1 month ago

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because somebody apparently thinks giving speeches is a critical skill to have in the IT world.
Ignore it at your peril. Odds are you WILL have to give presentations to bosses/coworkers/clients etc at some point in your career.

NeutralReiddHotel 10 years, 1 month ago

^truth

Astryl 10 years, 1 month ago

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Ignore it at your peril. Odds are you WILL have to give presentations to bosses/coworkers/clients etc at some point in your career.

This. Learning how to speak confidently is a skill that any successful businessman needs. And if you're in IT, you're constantly having to sell people on ideas, purchases and designs.

In my own experience, I'm on the phone every day to potential customers, to suppliers, to couriers, to my boss… and that's only the telephone.

These types of courses iron out a lot of the subconscious mistakes we make in our speech. Things like stuttering, stalling with silly noises ("Hmm…","Uhh", etc), and so on.

Being able to deliver a proposal in one concise and smoothly delivered sentence could be the difference between a successful sale and a failed one.

But yeah, these kinds of courses aren't strictly necessary. Most people overcome the anxiety when they reach an "I don't really give a fuck" moment.

Which happened to me the moment I started having to deal with customers in retail; to me, they're all potential income, and I'm not selling them anything if I'm stumbling over my sentences.

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It's hard to speak clearly when your tongue is sticking to your teeth, so now I have to take a few awkward moments to salivate and moisten my mouth so I can continue. It's terrible.
A lot of speakers keep a glass of water handy for that reason. Also happens to me, especially when I'm talking to people in suits. :P

Tasm 10 years, 1 month ago

Yes, I'm well aware of the whole "having to pitch a project to a manager" bit, so don't think I'm that naive. There are all sorts of classes at my school that cover this, many of which are requirements to complete the CS program course. Hell, I've got to complete a group project next month where I have to do just that. But to have all these classes AND a dedicated public speaking class (in which we only meet four times, mind you) seems a little asinine.

flashback 10 years, 1 month ago

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But to have all these classes AND a dedicated public speaking class (in which we only meet four times, mind you) seems a little asinine.
Would you similarly object to a pure math course, when many aspects of it also feature in applied courses?

Tasm 10 years, 1 month ago

That depends, what type of degree/career field are you trying for? Also, you'll have to forgive me if I feel like comparing speech classes to pure math is almost literally an apples-oranges situation.

flashback 10 years, 1 month ago

Not really. It's a course about a specific topic that is also utilized in courses about different, or more general topics. Unless you feel that all learning must be entirely atomic and isolated from other courses, it's a bit nuts to complain about that.