64Digits

Going through hell in search of love

Posted by Ferret on Sept. 14, 2010, 12:46 a.m.

It is an unsurprising fact that I am a lonely, single male who, for the right woman, would upon request seriously consider lobbing off his own leg for no real reason aside from her lols. As such, I've heard much advice lately from friends to stop being my shy self and "going after what I want." So last friday I asked a girl out and I'm not sure if it went terribly wrong or if I was unfortunate in the timing.

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Before you click that o-so tempting "Show" button, let me explain that I wrote out lots and lots of crap, sat back and thought "blaurgaflarg, this is too big and crappy." I thought maybe a few of you may want to skim the premise of it so I shoved it all in this here hide tag. I suggest you don't click it. (*watches you click it*):<

I met this girl on the second day of school, about 2 weeks ago, we were both trying to add into the same class. We talked a bit, but not much. Then later in the same day I ran into her trying to add into the same chem class as me. Again some time to talk but not much, however I saw her later that day trying to add into another chem class (after 2 weeks we both ended up not getting any of those classes). Here we got a good amount of talking done.

I assumed I would see her Thursday, judging by the classes we visited. However I didn't, and was sad that day :(

The next week on Thursday I saw her, but she was hanging out with her friend and I felt like she was avoiding me from what she was saying and changing where she was going, so I just kinda gave up :(

Then, Friday, she seemed to want to hang out with me, we ate together, but afterward she said she had to go to the library. In my head I kept screaming at myself to ask her out, that I wouldn't be able to at the library and it's my last chance (it wasn't). However I was stupid or too scared to ask her right there and then so I just went to the library with her. Sadly she needed to go to the computer lab and I had already mentioned that I had my laptop. So I lost her and jumped onto my laptop to chat with RC and see what I should do. RC pumps me up to find her and ask her out no matter what and that is what I do. Sadly she wasn't in the library at that point, however I was lucky enough to find her at the cafeteria. I felt like this was my only chance, and I couldn't return to RC without taking it….

Sadly, when my opportunity arose her friend was there as well, adding to the awkwardness. I stood there for a while, making crappy small talk, hoping her friend would miraculously find a reason to go away for a second. She didn't. So before the awkwardness became worse I said something along the lines of "blaurgaflarg" and asked her if she wanted to get dinner sometime. Two surprised faces. The friend jumps on her phone to pretend to do something. The girl responds saying she has a part time job and it's hard to find time (morality -1) I respond that I do too and if I had her phone number I could discuss what time would work later on. She responded that she was changing cellphones soon and would change her number (morality -2). Before I could say anything though she gave me her email address (morality +0.5?). I took it and walked away.

What the hell do I do with that?!?

First off I feel like she hated me the way she had an excuse twice to stay away from me, but then she gives her email address? Idk what to do. Even if those excuses were true how the hell do you ask someone out with an email???

In case you were wondering, this was the first time I asked someone outside of highschool. In fact in highschool I only asked 2 girls to dances and that's it.

I feel like crap.

Comments

blackhole 14 years, 1 month ago

I am utterly useless because I can't socialize so GOOD LUCK!

Zaron 14 years, 1 month ago

I'm glad my opening paragraph has inspired a chronicle through someone else.

Soon we will have a fantastic series of love-related nonsense, and people will have to pick out the truth from it.

My truth was going to Wal-Mart for Pop Tarts. c:

MMOnologueguy 14 years, 1 month ago

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So I lost her and jumped onto my laptop to chat with RC and see what I should do.

lol

Anyway, if I were you I'd probably just, uhh, I don't know, maybe blog about it and see if 64digits can come up with something.

eagly 14 years, 1 month ago

Try not to worry about it, and just be yourself when you see her next and try to gauge her interest. If she seems like she likes hanging around with you, say something cool like "so how about that dinner?" or something. If it goes nowhere, oh well, at least you did more than most people and tried to do something about it! It takes a lot to get the confidence to ask someone out, especially in front of their friend.

Alternatively, show her your tongue and I'm sure she'll be all over you. :D

Good luck :)

sirxemic 14 years, 1 month ago

Note to self: do not blog (for advice) when I meet a nice girl and/or get a girlfriend; nobody cares and the advice is always default advice.

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Alternatively, show her your tongue and I'm sure she'll be all over you

Or the opposite might happen!

eagly 14 years, 1 month ago

sir Xemic, what other advice is there to give? I guess you could email her and see what happens or if it's a hotmail add her on MSN.

Juju 14 years, 1 month ago

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The girl responds saying she has a part time job and it's hard to find time

That's reasonable, I guess, although it does rather depend on what job she has. If it's office work then I'd say you got brushed off there.

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She responded that she was changing cellphones soon and would change her number

Err… Right, doesn't stop her texting you her new number. Knock-back pretty likely but she could simply be a bit thick.

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she gave me her email address

Ew. I'd say you and her aren't gonna go anywhere any time soon. Still, that email is probably an invitation for Facebook/MSN fun times so all isn't lost.

eagly 14 years, 1 month ago

Ah. There's the other advice. :D

MMOnologueguy 14 years, 1 month ago

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I guess you could email her and see what happens or if it's a hotmail add her on MSN.

Do this, but first, shoop yourself into a photo of a supermodel of some kind, use it as a display picture, tell her it's your ex if it ever comes up and that you just haven't gotten around to changing it. She's sure to think of you as a pretty cool guy and agree to date you or something because you are clearly an alpha male for having such an awesome sense of humor so as to joke that your ex girlfriend is a supermodel. She'll probably be so attracted to you though that the impossibly awesome dude she has convinced herself is you is in fact not you. She will be left heartbroken for life if she ever figures it out.

Be careful. If she has any prior experience with this kind of trick she'll probably recognize it and despise you for your methods even if you meant well, but if she's the type, she'll admire your cunning no matter how much she denies it to herself. She'll be thinking about you for the rest of her life.

flashback 14 years, 1 month ago

You should have introduced yourself as Gerard Butler.